Brian and Melissa

OH MY GOD. I CAN’T BELIEVE I’M GETTING MARRIED. I dunno what happened, but I guess cuz we were so busy planning everything, and now we don’t need to plan anymore… it kinda just hit me yesterday. It’s crazy!!!!!!!!!!


We were talking about it, and I was like what the hell.. how did this happen? Like, totally met some random guy off the internet six I guess, seven years ago and now i’m getting married? AH!! It’s crazy! I love it! I’m so excited. This is one of the first times i’ve been super excited, just cuz I haven’t had time to think. We’re both super excited!

Yesterday we picked out our cake. Well two weeks ago we picked out our cake. Actually 7 months ago. We knew exactly what we wanted our cake to look like, like a day after we got engaged. And two weeks ago we went to Isaacs bakery to get it done and then two days later they called us and said they couldn’t do it. So I emailed our wedding coordinator (who is awesome) and she gave me the name of two places. I called the first place Once upon a cake, and we got an appointment with her yesterday. It was literally a 5 minute meeting, she said it broke a new record. I guess it’s because we were both so set on what we wanted that it was really easy. She said it was really nice seeing a groom and bride agree on the same thing and both have input and stuff because she never see’s that. We said, we’re always like that. Brian and I have the EXACT same style, tastes, etc… so it’s why we agree on everything. And if something comes up that we don’t agree one, usually one of us convinces the other. Like modern gothic, right Brian?

Then after cake lady (who said some horrible things about Zuchter Burk, nothing that I hven’t heard before… but just another addition to why I didn’t want them catering) Brian called his parents while we were driving back and asked them to make the decision on who’s catering the wedding. This has been up in the air forever, so much so that we missed our tasting with Eglinton Grand. So they decided we’re gonna have Eglinton Grand’s caterers do it kosher style. Like, we both freaked out!!!! We were so excited. The wedding feels so amazing now!! This is soooooo what we wanted!! And for so many reasons (save for another blog later). So we went out last night and celebrated at Sassafraz again. LOL! We can’t stop. It’s just so good.

Today we are going to our friend Guin’s wedding in Niagara Falls. We’re really excited we love going to weddings and stuff now. Plus Guin is awesome. And so is Niagara Falls. So everyone wins. Even Big Oil.

Lots more to say but I have to go get ready, I am getting ANOTHER make up trial today from someone else. Because i’m still not satisfied. I’ll update again tonight with a HUGE update that involves something that rhymes “omfg my d_ess is in and I am going for a f_tting next week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” also some awesome Bridal Shower blog coming up too!

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It’s Thursday, and by tomorrow we should have a detailed estimate on how much having our wedding at Steam Whistle is going to cost us. There is a scare that it is going to go beyond our budget, but we will wait and see. If that happens, we will find ways to cut certain things out instead of just switching to another venue.

There really are no good deals when it comes to picking a venue. Some venues are really high-end and charge through the nose, because they know their place in society. Then there is everyone else, all generally in the same price range, but all just have a different price structure. For instance, synagogues have very expensive food, but you get a lot of stuff thrown in, like linens, dishes, service, etc. At Steam Whistle, everything is separate, like a rental fee, catering company, so it can get expensive. But then you can pick and choose easier sometimes. We will see how much it is for sure tomorrow.

Tonight we met up with a rabbi that we both like (more or less). We still have to discuss it more, but he could be the one we choose to marry us. He’s reform Jewish, which I know our parents didn’t raise us as, but Melissa and I have been doing a lot of soul searching, and we are comfortable for what this guy stands for. The thing that is most important to us, an absolute must, is that a rabbi must stand for equal rights of a man and a woman. There must be nothing the man does that the woman doesn’t, and vice versa. And we love this, because it reflects our relationship structure exactly. Melissa and I are both very hard workers, are both passionate about what we do and who we are, we have separate bank accounts (and some joint ones), both have our own dreams, aspirations, and are both very independent when we want to be. Melissa cooks, and I do laundry and dishes. And sometimes we switch. We both clean. These are just a few examples, and together we know that our marriage will thrive because we are both equal, and are so open to each other about everything.

And we will look back on our wedding ceremony with great fondness that the person to marry us recognizes this first and foremost, and makes everyone understand that we are “Brian and Melissa.”

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