Brian and Melissa

Well we met with another rabbi last night. He was pretty much conservative, but did the ceremony egalitarian (non sexist). It absolutley solidified the fact that we don’t want a conservative rabbi. We felt disgusting afterwards… from the “There are three things that mean a true Jewish marriage.” to “No you have to have hebrew music walking down the isle”, and everything in between… it was horrible. It was an hour of just horribleness. Of rhetoric, and talk of tradition and all that.

My problem is I read a lot… I do daily research on all this. I know the Torah, I know the history of the bible, judaism, religion, etc… i’ve read it all. I think we know more than most people, i’m confident in that. Not saying we know more religious stuff than everyone, but we know a lot of facts and history. And just because this guy married his fiance’s sister because he couldn’t see her beforehand, like… UGH! That doesn’t mean I should wear a veil and Brian should check if it’s me. UNLESS I was wearing a proper veil where he couldn’t see me. Fine, that’s understandable… anything else is just stupid twisting of the tradition, and we both have way too many principles to go on with this stuff. I’m sure most people would, but I doubt they’ve done the research we have.

As the Rabbi was sitting there explaining Tay-Sachs, we already knew it… we knew more than he did. We spent hours reading about it, just as we’ve speant hours reading about Judaism, weddings, Moses and everything in between. So Rabbi, don’t tell us we have to have hebrew at the wedding because “That’s what makes it a Jewish wedding!” You wanna make it a Jewish wedding, you have Aramaic, because they sure didn’t have Hebrew back then.

This is our problem with religion… it’s all been changed too much. We absolutley respect and admire people who are Orthodox and walk to synogauge, and don’t eat non kosher food ever, and etc… but we’re too knowledgable, opinionated, and strong willed to forgo our beliefs and just do some ceremony that some rabbis got together and made up to be convenient for Jews who aren’t Orthodox… who twisted the rules and what the Torah says, and just say things like “You have to have hebrew music walking down the isle, because that’s tradition.” Don’t tell me that.

So now we have to now wait for this other rabbi guy to get back to us. We just wanna use Eva, I wish she was a man, and I wish she involved God more.

Oh and this guy wants us to do this marriage test and then we have a meeting finding out what we need to grow on. Things that’ll happen in our marriage that we should work on now. Gimme a break!!

Hopefully this does not offend anyone. Because this isn’t just for Jews, this goes for Muslims who don’t pray 5 times a day, this goes for Catholics who sin constantly then just go to confession assuming it’s all going to be ok, this goes for Christians who celebrate Christmas for the presents, and everyone else! Don’t mess with your religion! You have no right to. You either do it all, or you do nothing, but don’t think that God is all “Oh at least she came to Shul for Yom Kippur…she’s a great Jew!”

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So we’re a bit frustrated, but feeling a bit better nonetheless. Our ‘real’ wedding date was supposed to be October 5th, but that got shot down real quick because it was Jewish holidays. Turns out October 5th is fine… but too late now. I had a total freak out a few days ago, I just got really sad… it’s been so long and we’ve just been talking about the same stuff over and over and over again, and it’s so difficult because we just wanna book something, anything and get started and then it can kinda die down for a bit.

It’s so hard, because really all we want to do is get married and be together… we don’t care about the wedding, we never did. So it’s just making me really sad that we can’t even get married, at least that’s what we both feel like. And like, this is supposed to be one of the best times in our lives, and so far it’s been one of the worst. I’m so on edge, and angry and sad and frustrated all at once.

Neither of us can stand anything. But, I think we’ve made some progress and hopefully Steam Whistle will get back to us today so we can book it.Booking a venue like Steam Whistle, or anything for that matter, is really going to cheer us up and make us happy that we got engaged all over again.

Everyone keeps saying ‘This is when you start fighting, you aren’t going to agree on anything and the fighting will start. Just try and stay strong together.” Which I think is hillarious, because Brian and I are not fighting at all, we never have and we sure aren’t going to start now. But we’re both sad, at least we’re sad together. haha.

So last night we met with this Rabbi, who’s kinda cool but not as cool as Eva. We have to get some blood test because Jewish people decided to inbreed and now we can be carriers for some crazy Jewish disease when we have kids. Whoa.. Whoa “when we have kids”??? I know… I was so weirded out when I heard it too. We never ever ever talked about kids or any “grown up” stuff. hahah. We’re Brian and Melissa! We just mess around, play video games, spend too much money on crap, and go to Vegas. Who said anything about kids?? Whatev, I know we’ll have kids… but no one ever mentioned it before, and if they have then it was just like whatever, a random statement. But it sounded so for real and totally possible now that we’re getting married, which totally weirded us out. At least it weirded me out… I dunno about Brian, i’ll find out.

Ok I was wrong, it didn’t weird him out.

Melissa: Did it weird you out that that guy was talking about us having kids for real?
Your Orange Prince: it doesn’t weird me out too much
Melissa: why?
Your Orange Prince: I think about us having kids all the time
Melissa: Not for real though
Melissa: really?
Your Orange Prince: well I picture situations in my mindYour Orange Prince: like me reading stories and setting up a train set…
Melissa: Awwwwwwwwwww!!!!

Ok, now I feel like a jerk.

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